Family
The family is the most important nucleus of society. I studied for a master'sdegree in family development to understand a little more about the current state of our society and to be able to support the family as a pillar of the well-being of each individual and of society. What I learned led me to a great longing for families with more support, with more resources, something like tribes or communities.
In the family counseling I provide, I delve into the family structure (Genogram) to identify transgenerational dynamics and use human design to understand individual characteristics. From this, needs are recognized and strategies that work for the family are created.
Each generation does the best it can with what it has and “what they have” are a series of resources and also a series of generational traumas due to what was experienced in their environment, be it conquests, revolutions, natural disasters... and that leaves the next generation with its series of resilience resources and also a series of trans-generational traumas with which they will do the best they can...
Many of our parents lived through situations that led them to believe that security came from managing to adjust to the rules imposed by those in power. They learned that one had to look out for oneself, compete, and be “the best” to ensure survival at all costs; this strategy helped many of them ensure their family's survival, and they taught their children what worked for them.
Furthermore, many of our parents lived in an environment where emotions were not discussed, where there were no spaces for psychological safety. In recent years, science has finally been able to demonstrate that emotional intelligence is what allows for sustainable decision-making and that focusing solely on intellectual reasoning is what has led us to so much separation, so much violence, and so much pain.
Bert Hellinger says that “Emotional chains are transmitted from generation to generation until someone conscious breaks them.”. In my accompaniment, we make these emotional chains visible with empathy and resonance to be able to break them and open new paths and new connections to stop repeating the past.
Sometimes changes in consciousness come from events that happen to us in life, sometimes it is the most sensitive people who can feel these chains. Whatever the way you come to have consciousness, what is needed is a safe space to be able to name the chains, the need they covered, the cost they had, and the desire to break them to be able to start new paths that are more empathetic with ourselves and, as a result, more peaceful with others.
My methodology is created to accompany and support us in this consciousness and change of mindset using a form of communication that invites breaking patterns in community.